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Money Story: What feelings come up for you when you think about your Money Story?
Money Story: Not how MUCH you have – but how you FEEL about it.
Last week we referenced some Money music to muse over with as you navigate your Money Mystery that can transform into your Treasure.
The freedom within your story is
a) to be honest with yourself &
b) get a better understanding of the story you are telling yourself.
Your experiences will define the way you think, the way you speak and the way you attract money.
2 Easy Foundation STEPS to familiarise yourself with your Money Story?
This will create a useable framework for you to notice how you spend, invest, and approach your finances.
GRAB: A pad of paper, a pen, an open mind & 15 mins to reflect.
OUTCOME: A foundation framework to get comfortable & update your relationship with $£$£$£
STEP #1: Write your Money Story for YOU.
STEP #2: Be your own detective around your approach to your finances & notice repeating patterns.
“Money is multiplied in practical value depending on the number of W’s you control in your life:
What you do, When you do it, Where you do it, and with Whom you do it.”
STEP # 1: Writing your MONEY Story
1) How were you taught about $$£$$’s?
When you reflect on this…
Which thoughts or feelings are present?
Perhaps Embarrassment? Shame? Guilt? Uncomfortable…Anything else?
How did those immediately around you refer to money?
Were any of these comments familiar to you as you were growing up?
- “Money does not grow on trees”
- “Our family does not talk about $£$£$£$£$’s“
- “You have to work hard (strive) to get anywhere”
- “It’s a dog eat dog world out there”
- “Success = paying off your mortgage”
- “We can’t afford that.”
If this is resonating with you, it will serve you well to dig deeper.
It will support you in getting to your why you feel this way.
Perhaps you are feeling awkward thinking about $£$£$.
Getting curious about the topic can create energy for you to spend in making sh8t happen.
Might it be familial? ….cultural? ….as a result of past experiences or trauma?
Have you made up a story to yourself that it’s poor etiquette totalk about $£$£$?
Perhaps a past negative dialogue that someone made you feel shameful about it?
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2) How you talk about it, will determine your Money Mindset?
Does this sound like you? “Money is my friend.”
If you give Money a place to live & respect it, you will create opportunities with $£$£$.
Or is this more the tone? “Money is my foe”
If you don’t want £$’s, then keep talking about how your dislike it poor you are with it when you have it, you want to spend it, how confusing & stressful it is.
Don’t spend time with it and avoid taking responsibility for it.
If you want £$’s, then make friends with it – stop resisting the urge to want it, yet not accept it as treasure!
That’s like inviting a friend over for a cuppa – then making her stay in outside.
Treat it like your bestie.
Invite it in and over for coffee. Embrace it. Learn about it. Talk about it.
The more barriers you can break down, the more financial freedom you will create.
3) Notice all your money patterns & get curious about your habits & feelings including fears and anxieties when you think about your story.
STEP # 2: Be a DETECTIVE around your beliefs.
Look for clues in your story to see if they give you an indication of how your experiences have influenced your current relationship with your loot/cash/stash.
Which of your current beliefs around money serve you well TODAY?
Which of your current beliefs & attitudes limit you TODAY?
WRITE it DOWN.
What do you notice?
Is there a link between your story & your approach?
What needs updating?
What would you like to be different?
If you are telling yourself a story that you don’t deserve or “aren’t good with money – why not try flipping your script and ask smart questions to open yourself up to learn more.
Start speaking clearly and calmly about your finances, and take any emotion away so that you can make a new friend.
“ I’d never really thought about it before, but now you ask I can see that how my parents handled money definitely affected my relationship with it.”
- Our Money story can cost us our energy & well-being.
- Just because that was how it was – does not mean it has to be that way.
- You can update your software to create a new relationship.
- Money can be your treasure & your friend.
- Manaye makes a great coffee date!
Can you notice the patterns in your relationship with money that leaves you feeling guilty & exhausted?
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