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Perfectionism: 8 signs that you may be a perfectionist.
Perfectionists are likely to achieve less, suffer from anxiety and have more stress than focussed high achievers.
Are your own expectations causing havoc with your emotional wellbeing?
Are you telling yourself:
- I don’t know when to stop.
- Have I done enough?
- I’m going to mess this up.
- Am I smart enough?
- Can I do this? Am I enough?
- That’s too risky.
- I’m so frustrated. That’s too hard – I’ll do it tomorrow.
- What will they think of me?
- Can I Control This?
If you have had these thoughts, there is a high chance Perfectionism is speaking to you! There’s nothing wrong with exploring the idea as we want to play to our own standards.
It’s healthy for us to be aware when that ‘needle on the dial’ starts heating up and heads towards a red flag sign that ultimately will cost us our energy and our vitality.
PERFECTIONISM: A definition.
Refusal to accept any standard short of perfection.
We know that perfectionism is more than pushing yourself to do your best to achieve a goal. Perfectionists are likely to achieve less, suffer from anxiety and have more stress than focussed high achievers.
There is a duality of performing at a high level, delivering quality results – at the same time, perfectionism drives mega anxiety and grinds you to a halt.
A Perfectionist may appear to have it together on the surface. The trait affects all areas of our lives – at home, at work and at play.
The truth is underneath that layer is the inner turmoil that costs you your vitality. Perfectionism is not selective to its environment. It’s part of who we are and how we do things.
“Perfectionism is a reflection of our inner self, entangled & trapped in anxiety.
It’s 100% exhausting trying to be perfect.”
We have noticed how conversations uncover the reality of being stuck in a habit of STRIVING.
This topic has created some lively conversations at Tides of Change & the WAVE.co.NZ as we
connect dots to our own experiences and discover ways for us to up-level our game as we navigate this terrain with our clients.
High Achievers in life (home-work and play) set themselves goals and have many comparable attributes around high standards.
Yet, the big difference is in the thoughts, emotions and execution.
It’s worth getting curious about your reality. Exploring this will help you to think about making changes that create more vitality.
Take a look at our overview and notice any behaviours, thoughts or feelings that apply to you.
Taking Action on Perfectionism
Perfectionism and the resulting anxiety can be overcome with the right conversations.
Recognising that change may be needed is the first step toward connection to your ebb and flow and achieving more inner peace.
With the right resources, you can move towards a happier, healthier, more hopeful life, where you can find inner peace in an overwhelming world.
Imagine being able to say that “almost perfect” is still a job really well done.
“Good enough is good enough. Perfect will make you a big fat mess every time.”
– REBECCA WELLS
- You are enough as you are.
- Done is better than perfect.
- You can still be a high performer AND have fun!
- You are not alone
- Progress, not Perfection.
Have you noticed any patterns where your thoughts are creating your habit of perfectionism?
What might need your attention?
See our other Blogs to Inspire at READ & WRITE
–Why is SELF CARE Important
-30 Quotes on SELF CARE to Nourish & Inspire
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