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The slippery slide towards BURNOUT.
It doesn’t matter where you are in the world, where you live, what you do, there are many of us that have an inner doubt – am I enough?
In a world where striving seems to be required at home, work & play, the expectations we put on ourselves can send us into a spin.
Mums, Dads, over-performing professionals & students are being spread so thinly it’s only a matter of time before something buckles.
We are putting it on ourselves to work out, look great, share the family & household responsibilities, succeed in our careers, be hands-on supporting parents, encourage our kids to embrace & experience all the opportunities in our world.
Because we get caught up in feeling we need to engage with everything available we are stretched to capacity & beyond. Being present on the side-lines of sports matches, spending time with loved ones, providing & looking after ageing relatives & still attempting to glide through without letting on we have ‘swans feet’ paddling so fast under the watermark.
Enter Mr & Mrs Incredible ……. Superheroes get tested with these superhuman expectations on themselves.
Are you on the edge of Burnout?
Running our lives as superheroes impacts how we are truly showing up as a professional, business leader, a parent within our families & friendships and more importantly – to ourselves.
It is no wonder we feel stressed, overwhelmed and operate way too close to our burnout zone.
Do you know that feeling of overwhelm, emotionally drained, and unable to meet constant demands?
All too often we are putting everyone, everything ahead of ourselves, pleasing others and giving much of ourselves away leaving us drained & on the edge.
In our connected world, the art of comparing ourselves to others creates even more layers of anxiety and stress.
Overwhelmed, Under Slept, Overworked, Under Happy sums up a growing trend of how we are living our lives.
Burnout and the WHO – Am I enough?
In May 2019 The World Health Organisation categorised burnout as an occupational phenomenon in the International Classification of Diseases.
“Burn-out is a syndrome conceptualised as resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed & is characterised by 3 dimensions:
1) Feelings of energy depletion or exhaustion.
2) Increased mental distance from one’s job or feelings of negativism or cynicism related to one’s job.
3) Reduced professional efficacy.
As a result, the WHO embarked on the development of evidence-based guidelines on mental well-being in the workplace & we are in transition to be open to talking more openly.
The feeling that “I am enough” does not mean that I have nothing to learn, nothing further to achieve, and nowhere to grow to. It means that I accept myself, that I am not on trial in my own eyes, that I value and respect myself. This is not an act of indulgence but of courage.
– NATHANIAL BRANDEN
Shining a light where we need to…
- W is it that I worry about what others may think or their judgements of me?
- WHAT stops me from being vulnerable and showing my truth?
- WHY do I feel inadequate?
Is that FEAR stopping me from saying these 3 hardest words “I need help”?
Those layers of your onion are well & truly present.
Peel them back and we reveal some of the stories you tell yourself.
- Firstly, you don’t feel that you deserve the attention.
- Secondly, you have told yourself that others are more important and putting you ahead of them is selfish.
Most importantly, who is running the gig here? Our internal dialogue or you?
We can question if we deserve to give ourselves, the same as we give to others.
Why do we continually stop ourselves from being or having more?
(More Clarity, Confidence, Connection, Balance & Vitality)
Similarly, when we juggle too many balls – whilst ‘running on that treadmill’ – smiling on the outside – yet crumbling on the inside, life is, in fact, passing us by without the joy that we are so worthy of, we are most certainly heading for that burnout zone.
Photo Credit : Andrey Popov | Finding balance as a superhero
Am i enough?
Curious to know “Am I enough?” – Hell YES you ARE enough!
Shout it from the rooftops…YOU are ENOUGH!
Accept it. Firstly learn all the ways you are enough. Secondly, unlearn the patterns that tell you that you are NOT enough. And finally, relearn how to embrace freedom from everything that held you back.
It can be uncomfortable to accept – even painful to know…let that marinate for a moment whilst you reflect over a cuppa …ask yourself 4 questions.
1) Where in my life is this showing up as my truth?
2) What would change or would I do differently if I accepted that I am enough?
3) What would my family, friends notice me doing that is different from now?
4) What is the one step I can take to make this my reality?
When you know you are enough,
the next step is to truly believe it.
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“No matter how much i get done, or is left undone at the end of any day – i am enough” Brene Brown
- Burnout is an occupational phenomenon.
- You are not alone.
- There is no shame in asking for help.
- Overwhelm in any one area of your life does mean you are not enough.
- It takes courage to take action.
- Self Care isn’t selfish.
Have you noticed any patterns where you continually strive to feel enough leaving you feeling guilty & exhausted?
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